"I don't know whether Esther was joking in the car yesterday or whether she was serious.'
"She was very serious, Walter, and she is right, but I don't know how to change things, also what you said about sharing touched me very much, we don't have that, we don't take time for it."
The telephone started to ring while he was still speaking, it was the girl again.
"Where are you calling from? I asked.
"From school, we have recess now."
"Did you talk to your husband last night about coming to see me?"
"No."
"I found something for you last night, do you own a Bible?"
"Yes, I have one from my school days in our village."
"Then look up Jeremiah 10:20 it is verse for you."
"I will, Good bye,  the bell is ringing for classes I just wanted to greet."
I put down the receiver , it's my anonymous caller," I said to Daniel,  that is the third time she will call me, she lives with a man who doesn't want to legalize their marriage, but he sent her to school and she takes it as proof that he loves her."
"This is nothing usually in our city, " Daniel said. it's very seldom that I have wedding in my church, people hesitated because it makes divorce more difficult, it may be  that they will ask for a church wedding when they already have several children, , you see life here is not so straight lined and clean cut as your triangle, there are all kinds of in_between."
"Thanks for telling me, that girl did not like the triangle either, she said the corners stung her."
"They stung me all right," Daniel said laughing.
"Well let get back to your problem, could not we have supper together to night after the lecture when your children are in bed? I do like to talk to the both of you."
When Maurice picked me up that night, an elderly lady was with him, she was small and thin, her hair completely covered with a white head scarf, out of her wrinkled face, two eyes sparkled.
She greeted me and talked to me as if I understand her language, Maurice translated,   "She greet you and says that, she is a property with out an owner."
"Did your son tell you about the lecture last night?"
She nodded and pointing to her son , said "Maurice is an owner with out property."
"You have a very fine son."
"He takes care of me very well."
"You can be proud of him."
"But he needs a wife, I would take care of her well, she would not need to do much work, I could cook for both of them."
After Maurice had translated this last statement , I said to him:   "She think you will bring your wife to her and she will continue to rule the household, you must explain to her very carefully what I said yesterday about "leaving", especially about the kitchen, even if your mother move in to your home, it must be absolutely clear who ruled over the kitchen."
"I wish you would explain that to her," Maurice said, "It would mean more to her coming from you, It strange, but there are certain things which we accept more easily if they come from a stranger."
"I all people have trouble with the world,  "leaving"it is simply not a human, but a diviwid wisdom."
We have arrived at the church, it was full again, as I stood in the pulpit besides, I had a feeling of being completely one with him concerning the massage we had to give.
"Yesterday we talk about the marriage triangle, to leave to cleave, and to become on flesh which is possible only between the two person.
"Afterwards a lady called me and told me she didn't like the triangle I draw on the black board, "It has too many angles and conners and points , they sting,"she said .
"I understand what she meant, try not to think of this triangle of wedlock, love and sex as something unmovable and stuff, but as something alive.
"For instance in a circus, I once see three jugglers they stood an equal distance from other, like three points in a triangle, each one threw balls to both of his partner and received balls from both of his partners , each one had to give as well as receive, as long as they were able to keep up the rhythm of giving and receiving, the game went on in perfect harmony.
"Marriage is like this skilful performance, it's life depends upon the interplay between the legal, the personal and the physical aspect of the relationship,"
"At the point I took a wooden triangle out of my briefcase and held it up for the audience to see, I grasped the bottom left angle and said;
"Marriage needs lo, it receive from love it's fulfilment, it's joy , love is gift to marriage, it provides marriage with the spirit of adventure, of never ending expectations, love is like the blood pulsing though the veins of marriage, it might it alive.
"And the state of being married, of wedlock, passes on this life to the sexual together and provide the one flesh union with a shelter, a woman recently told me that she would rather think of the triangle as a tent.
Indeed, marriage is a tent for the physical fellowship, the lovers feel protected and sheltered in it, freed from fear, they experience great satisfaction and a sense of real peace.
"This sense of peace is then passed on to love, it is strong foundation in the ups and downs of feeling of emotions, within the"tent the experience of becoming one flesh strengthens love and make it grow, it motivation love faithfulness and make it want last.
                      Interplay of Force
"Love does not only receive strength from the physical following, it also gives the one flesh union strength. love longs for the physical expression, deepens it and make it meaningful and precious, as an act of marriage in the full sense of the word.