"Consequently with in the"tent" the act of love only receive, but also gives security marriage, through the physical surrender to each other,, the lovers renew again and again their wedding vow.
"Marriage serves love though his ever renewed affirmation, for this reason love needs marriage as much as marriage needs love, in the sad hours when love is in danger of growing cold, husband and wife cling to the fact that they are married and remind each other of their mutual promise,   "After all married you," they say, thus , marriage becomes the protector, the guardian of love.
                       The Will of God
"In our day there is a great confusion about sex, love, and marriage, this confusion reigns, not only in Africa, but in east side west as well, in the light of this fact our keys verse from the bible appears as very modern statement, it contains precisely the same three factors, the great question is:
What is the Will of God concerning sex, love and marriage? How does God want them to be related?  No one dares to answer this question.
    "Nevertheless I would like to make a proposition as a guide for our actions in this time of confusion, here is my proposition:
"God will is the interplay of force, therefore everything that favours it is in accord with the will of God, everything that hinders it is not in accord with the will of God.
   "This guide is applicable before marriage as well as during marriage, before marriage you will have to ask your self the question:
"Will what we are going to do prepare us later on for the interplay of force in our marriage, or will it block us and prevent the interplay?"During marriage, you will have to ask your self:
" Will this or that action deepen the interplay of Force, or will it eventually disturb it?"
"The interplay of force within the dynamic triangle I is full of elasticity and creative freedom,  In Genesis, 2;  24 God offer us an image which meets the personal need of every situation, every culture, for the will of God is valid not only for the christian, it is valid all mankind, the dynamic triangle, the guide image of our Bible verse is God offer to everyone.
I said, "It is an offer, a gift, God never demands any thing from us unless, he gives it at the same time."
My audience sat in pondering silence, they looked at the triangle on the blackboard and the one in my hand, I tried to read their thoughts and said:
"You may feel discouraged now, you may say:  "If marriage is such a work of art then I am a long way from having a perfect marriage."
"I know, I feel the same way, and I know Daniel does too."
Daniel nodded.
"There is no such thing as a perfect marriage, marriage keep us humble, the safest way to become humble about one's virtues is to get married, we always have to work on one of the angle of the triangle.
"I would say that most marital trouble point to the fact that one of the three forces is not fully integrated into the triangle, let us try out our guiding image in diagnosing some marital sicknesses, lei pretend now that you are all marriage doctors , we are going to visit a marriage hospital, let me introduce you to some of the patients, the first patient is one who has had trouble with his left angle of our triangle, love has grown cold, I call this disease,
                  The Empty Marriage
"Let me describe how this case looks, the couple are married, legally married, and have been for quite some time, they also have had physical fellowship, but love is gone, the reason for this state can be many,  maybe there was no love in the first place, maybe they married too young and too soon and what they thought was love lacking quality of "cleaving".
Or their marriage was based entirely on physical attraction and as the years went by this physical attraction was not so strong any more.
Or they neglected to put fuel on the fire of their love and became too absorbed by work in  household and profession or by the children, they each followed different interests with out sharing them, them and pretty soon they had lost their common ground.
"It is a dangerous disease, no marriage can take it for a very long time with out falling seriously ill, in the beginning this disease can be covered up quite well by the "married look", and the outside world is fooled, the couple still inhabit the same dwelling, but that is all.
"The disease does not stand still, as it progresses, these are the symptoms, the partners become cruel to each other in word and in deed , this cruelty on the part of both then gives way to complete indifference and a yawning emptiness in the mutual relationship.
"It is unavoidable that one day this emptiness also affects the physical fellowship, since the three angles of the triangle are inseparable from each other, the sickness of one will infect the two other, the sex act is experienced as a duty and a burden,a tension is created between sex and marriage.
"Pretty soon the husband look for a woman who understands him better than his wife, the wife will find a man who can comfort her better than her husband, jealousy creeps in mental unfaithfulness precedes sexual unfaithfulness, finally adultery affect the legal foundation and affects the top angle of the triangle also.
"This disease has been described and illustrated in thousands of films and novels, in a false way, these novels and movie put the blame on marriage for the death of love, they would have us believe that only out side of marriage does love have a chance to live, that only such love is worthy of praise, interesting, at  tractive,  and enticing.