Some of them are widows who are trying to make living in this way so that they do that they can take care of their children, if they should remarry they would lose their children to their deceased husband family."
 We have drove silently for a while before we left the district and came to the paved road again, then we stopped in the front of the church.
When we entered, the people were already singing it was filled up to the last pew , men sitting on the left side and women on the right side.
When Maurice led me down the center aisle some head turned curiously, but almost unnoticeably, Daniel was in the first pew and mentioned to me to sit beside him.
He give me a hymnbook and pointed out the stanza they were singing, I could read but not understand the words, but the tune sounded familiar, so I joined in, it felt good to be doing something together with the congregation before I had to address them.
During the last stanza Daniel close his hymnbook and told me to go first, I mounted the few steps to the pulpit, he followed me and stood by my side so that he can translate.
While they were singing the last line, I had a chance to get an impression of the congregation I was to address, there younger generation, by far in the majority, were sitting more toward the back, they sat close together, their head with the dense black hair reminding me of a velvet carpet, No one looked up at us.
I whispered to Daniel the passage I was going to read, he opened his bible, I opened my English bible then I began.
"There is a very simple statement about marriage in the bible, it is and clear and yet very deep.
"It is like a deep well filled with clear drinking water, you can lower your Pail into it as long as you live and it will never come up empty, you will always draw clear and fresh water.
"If we listen to this statement with an open heart, we shall discover that God him self is speaking to us, he speaks as one who wants to help us, he speaks as one who wants to direct and challenge us, but above all he speaks as one who wants to offer us some thing.
"It is the only statement about marriage which is reported four times in the bible, the bible does not speak very often about , therefore, it is all the more striking that this statement appeared four times in every decisive places, first it sums up the story of creation in the second chapter of Genesis.
Then Jesus quotes this statement in Matthew 19:5 and Mark 10:17, after he asked about divorcé, the apostle Paul relates it directly to Jesus in Ephesians 5:31.
These statements were written to show us God plan for marriage, they were given to  people who experienced times of rapid social change just as we do today...."
Thus far Daniel had interpreted my lecture sentence by sentence, with out hesitated and almost with out reflection, it was as if I heard my self speaking in another tongue, but when I used the term "rapid social change" he hesitated for the first time and went into a long explanation.
I continued and tried to describe one such period, the time of David and Solomon.
"New trade routes were opening up, foreign cultures came in to contact with each other, new  ideas influenced people, old tradition were no longer practiced.
Age old custom suddenly appeared out of date, tribes were broken up, taboos were destroyed, it was a time of complete moral confusion.
Everything was ploughed up just as today, this statement which showed them, then God age pattern for marriage, can serve, I believe as a guide for us during these next days.
I would like to read it to you now from Genesis 2:24.
Up to this point I had no reaction from my listen er , but now they started to open their bible which many of them had on their laps I waited a few moments and then read.
Therefore a man leave his father and his mother and clever to his wife, and they become one flesh."
As I read it, I was again struck by the simplicity and clarity of this verse, I felt that some thing was placed in my hands, something to pass on, l continued:
 "This verse had three parts, it mention three things which are essential to marriage: to leave, to cleave and to become one flesh, let us take up one after the other, first of all let us talk about leaving.
"There can no be marriage with out leaving".The word "leaving" indicated that a public and legal act had to take place in order to make marriage a marriage.
 "In former time, when the bride left her village for the village of her husband, it was a public procedure.
"Sometimes in Africa the whole wedding party dance, often for many miles, from the village of the bride to the village of the bridegroom.
"There is nothing secret about it, the public act of leaving make marriage legal at the same time, from that day on every one knows these two are husband and wife they are under"wedlock".
"In our day, this legal act of leaving is replaced in many countries by a public announcement before the wedding, as well as by an official marriage license, the outward from is not of primary important, but what is important is the fact that a public and legal action take place.
" Therefore a man leave his father and his mother," Marriage concern more than just the two person who are getting married.
Father and mother stand for the family who are in turn a part of the community and of the state, marriage is never a private affair.