The thing that will definitely be remembered in my opinion is when planning a wedding day, the reason is because when preparing for a wedding I feel mixed feelings. .from starting to get dizzy thinking about costs, details of items, the concept of a wedding event, to imagining happiness, how nervous my partner and I were on the H day. .everything will be more felt when preparing for the D day so that the wedding that happens later is in accordance with the wedding of our dreams and according to the budget
.The customs of our parents clearly need to be discussed because our two families come from two different regions, my family is Javanese, the couple's family is Manadonese.... .we both made sure these two customs from our extended family were present at our wedding as a form of our respect for our two big families. Whether the contract uses Javanese customs or vice versa, as well as the reception. .Likewise, food must also be considered, we want our event to have Javanese and Manado specialties. so that our two families can get to know each other Javanese and Manado specialties..The number of invitations, maybe it's still too far to count, especially since it's still very long from the D day, in our opinion this is very necessary from a long time ago, because this involves the number of food portions, which means it's also related to finances, right. .the venue for the event we both agreed to hold it at my house, this too had to be considered in advance because we had to prepare the papers. From here, I started to feel mixed feelings, dizzy because there were so many things to think about.
.I myself find it very difficult to plan this most important thing, because of the large cost / budget that must be prepared for marriage. Yes, the financial factor is one of the very vital things, because if there is no money, then we can't do anything. .Armed with the dizziness, I tried to outsmart it by saving and paying in installments.Saving is the main thing that every bride and groom must do, regardless of whether you want to make a simple wedding ceremony or even a royal one, because saving money can also strengthen our relationship, and become a new habit for both of us after..marry later for the future and our children in the future.For both of us, it was a bit difficult to save because we were each the backbone of our respective families.
At that time we both overcome it by making peace with time. .we must be heartened to make our wedding schedule will only be two years from now. Why so long? We both count the money we can set aside each month until.......
reached a nominal amount that we could pay for all our wedding preparations. The two of us also made an agreement every month to be able to save a minimum of IDR 500,000.
.We also save in other ways, namely by putting our money into gold bars/precious metals investments. We both started with a nominal of five grams, we both plan to save at least one gram every month. .the two of us participated in a gold savings account at a state-owned company that was free to save any amount every month. .Besides that, I asked for this gold bar as a dowry, so as the saying goes, while you are drinking water, the gold can be an investment and a dowry for a wedding too.
.In installments what we are both doing is starting to look for wedding vendors, even though the wedding date is still undecided. Wedding fairs became a way for both of us to find wedding vendors. .in fact the two of us had already visited the wedding fair from three years ago. Because we both agreed to hold our wedding at home and take care of everything with the family without a WO (wedding organizer). This is what filtered us both when we saw the wedding exhibition...
. There are many vendors at wedding exhibitions such as wedding organizers, catering, decorations, wedding make-up, wedding clothes, wedding halls, souvenirs, invitations to honeymoon packages. .at the wedding exhibition there will be many promos, there is a promo for free invitations and souvenirs if you have a down payment at vendor A. There is also a promo for a honeymoon package in Bali if the down payment is at vendor B..We were interested and almost immediately went down payment (DP) to hold an event at a restaurant because we were interested in the promo, with a long discussion together, discussing everything in as much detail as possible until we finally agreed to keep it at home.
.There are many interesting ones, of course, but you still have to be observant with the quality and adjust the budget. Don't be easily tempted by promos. Especially for catering and decoration vendors, because these two things will cost a lot of money. .The two of us have often done test food, seen the concept of events, decorations, services from many vendors armed with acquaintances during the wedding exhibition earlier. .with the wedding exhibition, we both know how much we have to spend and if it's suitable, we can even tie the price, you know, because usually the year changes the price too..
Another thing that can be done in installments is to make installments on the items that are delivered as well as keep me running my hobby, which is shopping. Every time I go to a shopping center, I always look for items that are suitable for making gifts. .In my opinion, the seserahan items must be items that will be used after the wedding and have a long lasting power.
.Don't because following the trend makes the bride and groom buy things that are rarely used, even just because they follow the trend of buying items with very high prices. .like make up, I usually use cosmetic brand A, yes, I will buy that cosmetic, not influenced by brands that are more famous today, I am also looking for a long expiry year like 2023-2024
.as well as other items such as bags, usually women's bags are in the form of handbags. I myself have always liked backpacks or sling bags the most, so I will still buy those two types of bags, lots of beautiful backpacks/sling bags that can be used as gifts. .make wedding gifts as a symbol of your own personality, that's my principle, and a message from my partner to buy useful gifts..
God willing, in nine months our wedding was both carried out, we both began to have to book several vendors such as decorations, catering, clothing and bridal makeup. The goal is that all vendors are not full booked alias already in someone else's book for sure. .For the uniform of the committee and you have also just started looking for good quality fabrics, matching also with the theme of the color of the decoration later, maybe in December-January I just bought and distributed to the committee / brother, it means about six months before the event because for H. Likewise for the dowry, all I have to do is take it from my gold savings, which I did long before. For invitations and souvenirs, we already have a choice but to order them we are targeting two months before the event. While waiting for all of that, of course, what we can both do now is save, pray, and have a lot of discussion about the schedule.
The preparation that is no less important for both of us is mental, even though we may still be married for a very long time, by preparing for many things over the past few months, my partner and I have understood each other more deeply. My partner came to know what my favorite things were, my personality when I decided to choose a gift, so I also had a new habit of saving for the future and our children in the future.
My partner and I also know how to have a healthy debate. While preparing for this wedding sometimes my partner does not agree with my choice, so we both love to argue with our respective desires, so it's a lesson for me that I will definitely feel every day after married right. So I'm looking for ways how I can make peace with my ego, my emotions when arguing with a partner, and vice versa, both learn to find a comfortable middle ground when arguing.
So it's like a class before the wedding, yes, it trains my sensitive mentality. The closer the D-day, the more dizzy we have because there are many things to think about, making us both support each other, strengthen each other, share burdens, share tasks for our marriage. Finally, we both ask for prayers so that everything we are preparing and on our wedding day will all run smoothly.....