Doctor Sam could only nod, while the wife was occupied with those who wanted to see her. Many times, when we see some couples, we admire them and wish our marriage will be like theirs, not knowing that they have their challenges too.
Doctor Sam took his time sobbing quietly, finally he raised his head and looked at Anu, then Righteous.
"You ladies must forgive me. I have no excuse for behaving like an animal. What is bad is bad. I plead with you to take it easy on me. Sister Anu, I am deeply sorry for my actions. If I have had my way,I would have been more ashamed of myself."
"But Sir, why was it so easy for you to fall prey to the temptation, to the point of trying to r*pe your patient?" Righteous uttered.
"Maybe I should ask if he is starved by his wonderful wife. A woman of grace and dignity." Anu questioned.
"Wow" He sighed looking up, wriggling his head in sorrow.
"We are sorry sir, but we need to know, to be able to understand you better." Righteous uttered.
"It's a long story, but I will give you a little summary. I married according to the will and counsel of God, as far as I know. We had a lovely courtship in every sense of the word. We gave out time to discuss our future together.Everything was fine, and so we got married.
On the wedding night, trouble started. My wife refused to allow me to sleep with her. It started like a joke. After a week, I reported to her mother, having dragged issues with her.
Our mother scolded her and apologized to me."
"What was her excuse for refusing you sir" Anu demanded.
"Hmmm, she had a bitter experience with her stepdad, and Uncle. These made her hate s*x.
I will share with you another time. My wife is on her way out. Please, pray for me." Doctor Sam declared soberly.
"Oh ladies, God bless you for keeping my husband company." Mrs Mabel Samuel came over, with a ready smile on her lips.
What a sweet lovely woman! People kept on saying, but they do not know that behind the sweetness was a broken and battered woman.
"It's our pleasure ma'am." Anu and her bestie, Righteous echoed and they entered their vehicle and left leaving the two friends wondering about Marriage.
"Anu, I am discouraged!" Righteous broke the silence.
"How do you mean?"
"Look at your case.You had it so rough that it will take God for you to marry again ".
"Hmm, girlfriend! I did not marry. I was impregnated and had to enter into a man's home without being officially Married. Mine is different from others. We have people who are enjoying their Marriage, like my Pastors'. Do not be discouraged. God will give you the best of husband." Anu encouraged.
"Hmm,WHO SHOULD I MARRY?" Righteous asked in a sober mood.
"Deep question my sister, but I will give you these answers that my Pastor Joseph taught us in our Annual Youth Convention last year. I wrote a lot down." Anu opened her notepad and started to read for her friend.
"Many singles both male and female, worry a lot about who to marry. Who will be the right man or woman becomes a mystery. Some are afraid of not marrying a man or woman that will make life miserable for them.
Those who are serious-minded pray and fast because of this.With the stories about marital challenges here and there, many become discouraged.
Some feel some ladies are pretentious and wouldn't show their real character until there is a ring on their finger, then they begin to bring out their wicked traits.
Some ladies have this latent fear that men are deceptive and polygamous in nature, so prefer to hold on.
Marriage can make or mar a person. The woes of marriage are more than the joys, many times. So the question, "who should I marry", comes in.
If you ask me this question, I will start it this way
.Marry someone who have the same faith as you.
Can two walk together except they agree? Marry not just a Christian, if you are a Christian, but marry someone who believes in what you believe as a Christian.
Foundation is very important. If you don't marry someone who agrees with your faith, you may have a problem with him or her. If you don't believe in speaking in tongues, and your spouse does, you will have quarrels that may lead to the breakage of the home.
If the foundation is destroyed, what can the righteous do?
If you are a Christian and you marry a Muslim, unless you compromise, the marriage may not survive.
If you are the type that does not believe in praying aloud and you marry a woman who loves to shout, there may be fights.Share your beliefs and let your partner believe in what you believe.
.Marry someone who has accepted you the way you are.
Someone who has accepted everything about you. You don't have to pretend or hide your past from him or her. If you have a child, let your partner know before marriage. Be free with the person. I know of a man who wanted to marry a lady.
The lady unfortunately has no womb. The lady had to open up to the man. He accepted her and they got married. But let the man or woman not think that a miracle will happen later on.
Count the cost, so that if the person is still unable to get pregnant you will still love her. If you marry a man who cannot perform, then count the cost before jumping into marriage. It is good to have faith but if you believe and the miracle does not happen, will you still enjoy the person?
Your weaknesses and troubles should be discussed. Never allow your spouse to discover it. It destroys relationships.
We will continue this another time too."
"Haha, tell me more!"Righteous yelled.
"Look at you! Let's go to the hostel, I am famished." Anu yawned aloud. It has been a long day.